As I've seriously studied the subject of self-esteem over the years, I've come to understand that it really is difficult to feel good about yourself consistently. Self-esteem is a complex equation that requires the addition of acquiring one characteristic after another until you achieve the total sum of its parts and find the answer for yourself.
With my two-volume World Book Encyclopedia Dictionary in hand, I studied the meanings of hundreds of words until I found the perfect ones that I felt described all the moving parts of self-esteem.
The following thirteen words, which go along with the 13 Choices for Happiness and High Self-esteem, are each like an individual spoke in a wheel that gives it the strength to carry the heavy load placed upon it.
These are the thirteen interrelated “self-esteem” words are:
Keen perception or judgment; insight into oneself
Careful control and training of oneself
Learning or finding out about one’s identity
Disclosure of one’s real self
Having proper regard for the dignity of one’s character
Looking at one’s own state, conduct, or motives
Believing in one’s own abilities, power, or judgment
Direction of one’s own course or action
Fulfilling one’s own obligations in a reliable way
Dependence on one’s own acts or abilities
To restore, refresh, or rejuvenate oneself
Giving up one’s own interests for the welfare of others
Direction from within only, no force from without
I believe that proactively integrating these definitions into your everyday life will contribute to consistent feelings of happiness and high self-esteem and help to define who you really are.