Reflections on Marriage: C is for Communication
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When I first got married, I was not good at communicating my true feelings. Each night before David and I went to bed, I would cry for at least thirty minutes before I could say what I really wanted to say. I had so many pent-up emotions since my childhood that I needed to talk through with someone I really trusted. Now I was married to my best friend, David, with whom I could share all my feelings.
Night after night, I would cry. Night after night, David would comfort me. Night after night, I would talk about what was bothering me.
Night after night, I was concerned that David would get tired of all my crying. Night after night he reassured me that I could cry as much as I needed to cry. Night after night, he told me he would love me forever.
Night after night, I knew how much David cared for me. Night after night, I knew I would always be his “Number #1.” Night after night, I knew I would always feel safe with him.
David and I just celebrated our 48th wedding anniversary. I still feel safe with him. We have both learned to communicate well with each other over the years, and I don’t cry as much as I did in the beginning!
Communication
Communication
in marriage means
not only thoughtfully
listening to the
words being spoken,
but also embracing
all of the
silent, fragile feelings
until you can
both completely understand
each other’s hearts.
Excerpt from ABC’s for a Happy Marriage:
A Collection of Original Poetry and Biblical Scriptures
Here are a few quotes I love about communication in marriage…including a witty little poem by Ogden Nash who loved to write humorous poetry!
“The first duty of love is to listen.”
“Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation.”
“The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t being said. The art of reading between the lines is a life-long quest of the wise.”
“Communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life. Without it…it dies.”
“To keep your marriage brimming,
With love in the loving cup,
Whenever you’re wrong, admit it;
Whenever you’re right, shut up.”