I learned to get up each morning, put a smile on my face, and leave the past in the past. Everybody was given a “clean slate.” I tried to focus on today and expect the best in everyone. If a new problem occurred today, I tried to deal with it today and not bring up or recite a long list of grievances that had happened in the past.

My husband David and I are continually saying, “Thank you!” to each other throughout the day. Around our home, we are always noticing what the other person is doing and try to make a point of showing our appreciation. It only takes a few seconds, but it reminds us to never take each other for granted.

I had so many pent-up emotions since my childhood that I needed to talk through with someone I really trusted. Now I was married to my best friend, David, with whom I could share all my feelings. Night after night, I would cry. Night after night, David would comfort me. Night after night, I would talk about what was bothering me.

One of the most important times to be optimistic is when you get married. There will be many situations in marriage that will cause you and your spouse to feel discouraged. But there is no problem that an optimistic wife and an optimistic husband cannot work out together with the help of the Lord.